Don’t Look a Gift Horse in the Mouth

     I think someone once said that life is supposed to be challenging. Well, yes, the statement is true enough.  But, somehow, many of us believe that things should go smoothly a good part of the time.  Most of us work towards this end, and we count on it.  Then, when life goes awry, we’re upset, angry, and disappointed.  We dread challenges and vexation.  I’ll be the first to admit that I work very hard to keep my life on course.  I’m an “all your ducks in a row” kinda girl.  I follow the rules, keep my word, and act decently–treating others as I would like to be treated.  I basically over-analyze most situations, teasing out the pros and cons before making a decision.  However, despite my good intentions and best efforts, challenging stuff still happens.      Maybe, if we modified our view of challenging circumstances as a normal part of life, we wouldn’t be so surprised and upset when they occurred.  Also, what if we stopped interpreting the stuff that happens as positive or negative.  It’s happening, let’s try to accept it, and move through it.  You know, let’s stop judging the stuff.  Of course, this is easier said than done.  On the surface, some stuff looks pretty negative–even devastating at times. Which brings me to a quote by Elizabeth Gilbert that I absolutely love:  “Ruin is a gift.  Ruin is the road to transformation.” What if the […]

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Firefly Forest

  Welcome to a place of stillness, beauty, kindness, and compassion.  A magical realm that delights the heart and lifts one’s spirits.  Take a journey through Firefly Forest and experience the creative endeavors of a few, whose humanity touched the lives of many. I hope you’ll take a few minutes to enjoy a short film called, The Gnomist.  You may […]

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Tuesday Tunes: Unconquerable Soul

Bermuda   “Invictus”   Victorian poem by English poet, William Ernest Henley 1849-1903     Out of the night that covers me, Black as the Pit from pole to pole, I thank whatever gods may be For my unconquerable soul.   In the fell clutch of circumstance I have not winced nor cried aloud. Under the bludgeonings of chance My head is bloody, but unbowed.   Beyond this place of wrath and tears Looms but the Horror of the shade, And yet the menace of the years Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.   It matters not how strait the gate, How charged with punishments the scroll, I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.     Because….. sometimes, life is a little like a difficult relationship.     “Knock me down it’s all in vain, I get right back on my feet again.”   ~Pat Benetar    

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Be Inspired

“You are the books you read, the films you watch, the music you listen to, the people you meet, the dreams you have, the conversations you engage in.  You are what you take from these.  You are the sound of the ocean, the breath of fresh air, the brightest light and the darkest corner.  You are a collective of every […]

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Falling

Originally posted on Almost Farmgirl:
? “Oh, I’ve never fallen off…” She thinks she’s bragging, but the little girl, or teen, or grown-ass woman (or perhaps man) who utters those words in the horseback riding world has failed to read the room.  We are not impressed.  In fact, the polite among us are trying not to laugh in her face. …

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Friendship

I’ve known my friend, Rhonda for 30 years now.  We met in the spring of 1986 when we were both trying out for our high school’s drill/dance team.  I was 14 and she was 13.  Rhonda was friendly, bubbly, and easy-going, and we just seemed to click.  We were great friends throughout high school as well as college roommates. Rhonda […]

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True Grit

This post is inspired by a conversation with a very good friend. *I was given permission to share this post by my friend. A friend of mine received some rather upsetting and stressful news this week regarding something that has a significant impact on him.   A decision made by others as well as the ramifications of this decision are the sources of his anger and frustration.  This is a person who is intelligent, fair-minded, hard-working, and successful.  And, the injustice of this decision process as well as his perceived powerlessness is one of the reasons he is in such a negative state.  He shared that he felt as if he’d been “kicked in the gut.”  After some discussion, I learned that the initial decision was grounded in an endeavor to do “the right thing.”  Although this decision was meant to be a positive change, it was not discussed and taken through proper and standard channels before being decided upon.  Nevertheless, the decision was made.  The galling part is how this decision is now being handled by others and the unfair impact on my friend and his peers. Understandably, my friend is in a funk and having a rather difficult time accepting this news.  I listened and agreed with him regarding the injustice and unfairness of the matter.  But then, I said, “You’ve got to accept this and let go of your toxic feelings about it.  There’s no use wasting […]

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Tuesday Tunes: Life’s a Bowl of Cherries….Not Really, But That’s Okay.

Life isn’t perfect.  It’s not supposed to be.  It’s supposed to be REAL:  a messy “learning lab” of experiences, mistakes, and practicing our ability to reflect on all of it—hopefully cultivating a positive outlook.  An outlook that creates a meaningful, beautiful, and one-of-a-kind life.  A life we can share by loving and uplifting others…..and, ultimately, ourselves. So, here’s the thing: […]

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