Inner Peace

  “Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.” ~Pema Chödrön     “There is only one way to happiness, and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.” ~Epictetus   “In the process of letting go you will lose many things from […]

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Irises

  “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggles, known loss, and found their way out of the depths.  These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern.  Beautiful people do not just happen.”     ~Elisabeth […]

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The Things We Don’t Say

Originally posted on The Off Key Of Life:
Nothing haunts us like the things we don’t say. Mitch Albom This is not an elephant in the room kind of thing where the problem we all acknowledge keeps getting pushed under the carpet. This is more about an unspoken hug. It’s about the things we don’t say because we don’t know if the person we care about wants to hear them or if the words are just inadequate. It’s about love, and pain. It’s about hurt, and loss. It’s about moments that stay with us forever but never get acknowledged once we’ve moved past them. It’s about remembering, and forgetting. It’s about understanding, and learning. It’s about wanting to put your arms around someone you care about and tell them you can’t begin to understand their hurt or loss but you think about them everyday. It’s about wanting to let them know that you see past the smile. This is about learning to live with the kind of loss that is not openly discussed. It’s about what if, and never was. It’s about what you can’t get back, and what you can’t let go. It’s about remembering. It’s always about remembering. So when I walked over and hugged you the other day for no apparent reason , it was my way of letting you know that I remember, too. That I wish things were different for you. For all of us.…

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Something to Ponder

Before Christmas, I read an article along the lines of self-empowerment and jotted down some highlights that made an impression.  I know I’ve heard much of this advice at one time or another, but seeing it all together resonated.  I looked for the article the other day, but unfortunately, I misplaced it.  I did, however, manage to find my scribbled notes.  I thought they were worth sharing.   —Be Bold. Go for what you want and don’t be afraid of hearing “no.”  Embrace your choices and own them.   —Know when to walk away. Cultivate a no-B.S. attitude.  Never invest your time and energy into something or someone who isn’t offering respectable returns.   —Communicate your needs and set boundaries. Never sit silently in front of someone who disrespects you.  Set a boundary right then and there…and move forward.   **–Bounce back from problems. Look for a solution.  Learn the lesson, apply it to the future, and move on.  Don’t waste time regretting.   —Actions speak louder… Never rely on words.  Only through actions can we gauge the true motives and feelings of others.   —Know when to say “no.” Don’t be a pushover.  And, NEVER apologize for doing things that make you happy.  Never bend yourself backwards, forward (and backwards again) to please people who wouldn’t do the same for you.   **–Don’t play the victim. You’re in total control of how you react to a situation.  When things […]

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Got Tenacity?

  This sunflower inspires me.  I’ve planted these cheerful blooms in my garden a number of times, and they haven’t come up–maybe, because the birds ate the seeds.  I really don’t know.  But, two summers ago, this little sunflower sprung up in our backyard of its own volition.  It didn’t just grow….it thrived.  To my surprise and joy, it bloomed […]

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